Happiness...

I am noticing that I visit my blog mostly when am down, terrible upset or irritated. Right now, it is a mix of the three.

There are lot of mails, gyans, and messages on how to be happy in life. But I dont see anybody following the path to happiness nor do I follow it. Everything is cyclic. If am happy people around me will be happy. If they are not, that reflects on me.

What makes one unhappy?
faliure?
jealousy?
misunderstanding?
dissatisfaction?
discontent?
disregarding?
ignorance?

The list is on and on. Few of the reasons are due to our beliefs. Rest is cause of the people around us. When I was listing the above mentioned reason, I was wondering what could lead to these. Ideally, an ignorance or disregarding could lead to misunderstanding, or the other yround.

There are people who ignore the cause of unhappiness, and try to be happy. Some people move to their own world when something hurts them. These people either keep to themselves or go around speaking philosophies.

There would also be instances when we will actually be upset but we will not know the reason behind it or we will fool ourself by hiding/not thinking about the reason.

On such instances, I get reminded of an advice from one of my teachers. And I follow her words which actually ends up making me feel better.

If you are upset over something and you dont know the reason, then you should sit quietly and think about all that had happened to you and around you from morning. One by one all the incidents will flash in your mind. And when u come accross the incident that has been troubling you, your heart actually becomes heavy. This is so damm true! Once you get hold of this reason, you should find out what exactly affected your mood - which moment caused you more pain. Once you find that, you can easily find a solution to it. If you are not finding a solution, then it means the problem is linked to someother person. Do not wait for a second. Talk to the concerned person.

It does wonders! I am yet to improve on the second part of the technique i.e., talking to the concerned person. Cause I tend to supress my worries within myself. I have changed quite a lot. I can see I am reaching there!

Happy B'day

My dad's friend is turning 60 today... a poem (lolz i call it so) for him :)

It is your birthday,
Not like any other day..

It is indeed a special day..
Cause it is your 60th birthday..

Don’t let the moment flyaway..
Spend the day like a Sunday..

Hope you put down your ashtray.. :D
Cause it is your birthday..

Let the celebration not have any hindrance..
Celebrate it with all the joyance..

It is your birthday,
Let’s celebrate it our way!!!

Jonny Jonny.. yes papa.. Telling lies... yes papa :D

* The title of this post was changed from 'Lieing to parents' to 'Jonny Jonny.. yes papa.. Telling lies... yes papa :D' cause of two devils. And, this post is not about we lieing to our parents. It is about how our parents can make out every single change in us.

Liging to parents: This is something I just C-A-N-N-O-T do!!! Even if I try to, I end up looking like a jOKEr (I know what you are thinking!! :-P) (Inspite of this I give it a try :D)

One incident is still afresh in my mind. It was about two-and-half years ago. I had to attend one of my colleagues wedding. It was a Christian wedding so it was in the evening. Those days, I had a strict order at home to reach home early and not wander anywhere other than my office. Reason: I was getting married in couple of weeks.

But did that order stop me? NO. I was thinking how bad my friend would feel if I dint attend his wedding. (Ask me if he remembers who all attended his wedding! Ha Ha.) So, we (Me and My friend - partner in *crime*) decided to start early from office and headed to the venue. On way, we had to purchase gift for the couple, find the route and had a fight with the auto guy!! By 7.00 pm we managed to reach the hall. The newly weds were yet to arrive from the church. Meanwhile, we caught up with our colleagues who were around. By then, the couple arrived. Wishes followed. And, I checked the time. It was 7.45!!! We thought to skip the dinner so that we can reach home on time. (and go home and tell our parents we had dinner *another lie*) LOLz.

We ended up having the dinner from the mandap. How can we hurt our friend by not eating at his reception :D? Then, we took an auto back home. Just then my dad called me. I missed a heart beat on seeing call. Thousands of questions were running in my mind – what will he ask? What will I say? How will I manage? Amma is gonna kill me. I recited the lines I had to utter for the question my dad MAY ask, and pressed the green button on my phone. Said ‘yes acha’. (For all the non-malayalee readers (IF ANY haha), Acha means dad in Malayalam). He asked me, ‘Where are you molae?’ (Again, for all the non-malayalee readers, ‘molae’ means ‘dear daughter’). I prompt replied ‘On way home acha..’. Not that I was very good in dialog delivery!! Cause I could clearly guess from my dad’s response that he knew what I was doing.

Not that going to a party without informing parents is a blunder. But, going ANYWHERE without informing your loved one’s is just not the right thing to do!

And, if you are up to ANYTHING without your parents knowledge, just pluck the thought out of you! Cause your parents can notice even a small change in you and can easily guess what you are upto!

Love Kids!!!

There is a lot of change in our lives after my niece walked in. There are few things you have to live with when a little one is around. At their age, innocence is at its peak. Few of the changes which have walked in our life in the name of my lovely niece are as follows.

• Then: Men in our house used to roll around all the news channels without giving us a chance to peep into other channels.
  Now: Neither they watch news channels nor we get to watch our fav channels.
  Reason: Dora, Notty (or Noddy??), various rhymes CD, list goes on and on.
  This scene indeed is a pleasure to watch. There would be three men (my dad, my hubby and my BIL) sit on the sofa (HELPLESS), and in front of them would be my niece keenly watching the animated characters.
• Then: We used to skip a heart beat if water falls over the sofa/bed.
  Now: We laugh over the little one who tries to pull the sofa covers and pees on it. :-D
  Though you get angry over the things these little one does, one smile from her and you are floored! She would change the ‘naksha’ of a well maintained house to a war field.
• Then: ‘I love sleeping’ Who doesn’t love sleeping?
  Now: From sound sleeps at night you will have sleepless nights.
  This as a beautiful change in women. Women, who used to long for sleeps and who used to get pissed off when disturbed from sleep, stay awake with their babies in hand through out the night. Probably, that’s motherhood.
• Then: I had to share chocklates with crispy only.
  Now: Three shares please.
• Then: we used to address achan and ammaa as ‘acha’ and ‘amma’.
  Now: Term them ‘ammacha’ and ‘ammamma’ :-)

List goes on and on….

When the world is fighting for money, fame and recognition, these little one’s will be seriously involved in their works. They would be playing with two glass filled with water, putting their dolls to sleep, trying to open some container and what not.

It is indeed disappointing that these innocent adoring little one’s grow to become what we are today!

Whatever! I just love kids. Love their breath, expression, broken words, naughtiness, smile, laugh…. Gosh.. just love kids!!!